Where are the men?

The billion dollar question running through hundreds (maybe thousands) of women’s minds: “Where the men at?” or better yet, “Where are the Godly REAL men?”

Maybe they’ve been taken captive on a remote island and all the lines of communication have been destroyed. Maybe they’ve been trying to get home but they haven’t been able to escape their abductors, so now we’re stuck with all the less-than men. That’s a nice thought. Sometimes I’d rather pretend they’ve been kidnapped, than to actually face reality.

So, where are the men? Yes, I do believe they’ve been taken captive, but not on a remote island far away. I think they’ve been taken captive right here in front of us. Who is their kidnapper? Sin.

Ladies, we can come up with a million and one reasons why the men aren’t stepping up to the plate. They’re not reading their bibles, they’re too wrapped up in work, all they care about is the game (sports), all they want is sex, they’re not attending church, etc. We can make a long list of the men’s failures. But the bottom line is….. the problem is still SIN. It has been a problem since Adam and Eve.


People (men and women alike) who are living in sin, are dead while they live. They might be walking and breathing, but they are spiritually DEAD. That’s why there’s so much evil going on in the world. They need to be made alive in Christ Jesus. It will take a move on their part. Jesus has already done His part. He already suffered, bled, was crucified, died on the cross and was raised from the dead on the third day. It is finished. There’s nothing else the Lord need do. Now it’s up to us to repent and believe the gospel of Jesus Christ. We can’t simply just stop sinning because we want to. First, we must be born again. Then we will be filled with the Holy Ghost, who also enables us to walk in the spirit, so we will not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. The word of God says to be not conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

Romans 13:14 But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof.

Some of you might be thinking, what about all the good Godly men who serve in church? Aren’t they considered to be REAL men of God? Okaaaaay, sooooo… if you believe all the Godly men are in church, then you’re not wondering where they’re at. I personally haven’t found them in church buildings. In my honest opinion, a church-going man DOES NOT automatically mean he’s a God-fearing man. I’ve known plenty of men who attend church, serve in leadership, raise their hands, shout, and run all around the church – but their unfaithful, disloyal, and untrustworthy hypocrites. (But thank the Lord for faithful men of God!) People look at the outer appearance – ooooo he’s so fine, he drives a nice car, he’s doing this and that, he’s got it going on at work, he has a degree in fill-in-the-blank, he’s serving in the church – but God looks at the heart! The Lord said that people honor Him with their lips but their hearts are FAR from Him. The Lord doesn’t care about your stuff and that hyped religious show you put on. He wants your heart. So we must get to the heart of the issue. All men need to seek the Lord for themselves. Not an outward display, but seeking the Lord sincerely with all their heart. If men are in fact seeking the face of the Lord, the enemy is putting up one heck of a fight to block men from EVER standing up and taking their rightful place as LEADERS and priests of God.

We look to the men for provision, protection, and direction. But they are only human, right? The bible tells us not to put our trust in humans anyway. We are supposed to look to Jesus for everything. He is our rock and our strength and our fortress! Ladies, we must ALWAYS trust the Lord. Let’s be women of God in our actions and our words. Instead of complaining about the lack of men, let’s do something about it. We won’t walk around with our heads down and our hearts broken. We turn to the word of God for hope. The word of God tells us to pray so… Let’s pray for the men! Click here to pray with me for the men.

Acts 1:14 These all continued with one accord in prayer and supplication, with the women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and with his brethren.

Ephesians 6:18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
1 Timothy 2:1 I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks, be made for all men;

Here’s a great example of a courageous Godly man standing up for his faith.


Here’s another beautiful example of a brave man of God preaching the gospel to strangers.


Here’s a powerful testimony of a brother in Christ, on how the Lord changed his life.

And an example of a man who stood up when things were getting out of hand.


P.S. God created us women to help, and in this present time, the men desperately need our help in prayer. Let’s keep praying ladies!


With love,

Lady Rho

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