Some guys be like, “I needa ride or die chick.” Unless she’s riding and dying for Jesus, then she’s the wrong type of chick. Seek a woman after God’s own heart… not just a pretty face who attends church service and plays “holy” on Sunday, but she “hoe-ly” the rest of the week. Find a woman who’s aim is to be your wife for life, not your freak for a week. Stay away from women who are comfortable with being your live-in girlfriend or friend with benefits or just your baby mama. You need that type of God-fearing woman that will endure for the long haul, not the fearful type who throws in the towel when the money is funny.
No, you don’t deserve a virtuous woman of God. Why? Cause the Lord knows your dirty past and what you truly deserve… but He is a merciful God of second and third and forty thousand chances. Now that the old man is dead and you have been made alive in Christ Jesus, use wisdom to find that “good thing.”
Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Beauty is a wonderful thing, but physical beauty eventually fades. And just because a woman is beautiful on the outside, doesn’t mean that she’s beautiful on the inside. Even if she’s beautiful forever and a day, her beauty is not what makes a good wife. This is where much prayer and discernment play a huge role in you finding a Godly wife. Pray that the Lord present to you a woman who has died to herself and is living for Christ. A woman who is good at taking care of the home and the children, not just taking care of the sheets. A responsible woman who understands how to prioritize her time, how to save money, and how to relieve stress from you by NOT causing you to overwork and overspend your money on unnecessary material things. A praying woman of God, who hears from the Lord and not the TV, soap operas, Oprah and gossiping family or friends. A woman who is quick to pray and seek the Lord when things get crazy, rather than going crazy and worrying to death when things get rough. A giving woman of compassion who loves and cares for others, not just herself. A submissive woman who will gladly yield to your leadership, and will respect and honor you as head of the home. A graceful woman who has a gentle and quiet spirit. A meek woman who is humble, peaceable and not nagging or contentious. A faithful woman who would rather study the word, spend time with the Lord and pray with you, than drink and party and hit the club. A virtuous woman who chooses to remain celibate until marriage, rather than an immoral woman who just wants to be cut buddies. A worthy woman whose beauty is not only seen with the physical eye, but seen with spiritual eyes. And lastly, a woman who adores your love for Jesus Christ not just your handsome physique. That type of woman? Yeah boo boo, go after her.
PREREQUISITE: Men, your life MUST be hidden in Christ! Read Colossians chapter 3. And remember to seek FIRST the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things (like a Godly wife) will be added to you. Otherwise… you won’t recognize that “good thing” when she comes along, or you will accidentally ruin her life because you weren’t ready.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth theLord, she shall be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
Your sister in Christ